My Vancouver Sun Run Experience

Written by Miranda Vecchio

On Friday, April 14th, Vancouver Sun Run hosted a Sponsors and Charity Partners reception at the Hyatt Regency in Vancouver. This is Charlford House’s first year as a Charity Partner so I attended with a friend who is also a Charlford alum. 

I had no idea what to expect from the evening but it turned out to be a lovely and worthwhile experience. Apart from meeting some event Sponsors and the reporter who recently profiled us in the Vancouver Sun, I also made some great connections for possible future partnerships that will benefit our women.

When the speeches began, I was interested to learn of the origins of the event (now in its 39th year) and actually hear from the founders. Long-time participants and supporters were also introduced, as were some elite (including Canadian Olympian) athletes, which opened the door for some friendly banter – bragging rights were up for grabs but alas! would have to wait until Sunday morning!

Having had the opportunity to be in this room, full of such quality people, to meet some of the organizers and to bear witness to the passion and long-time relationships that have been forged, really left me feeling more connected to the event. What started out as a corporate /business initiative was now feeling personal.

On Sunday, April, 16th, I parked my car in an underground lot in New Westminster, near a sky train station and lined up to pay behind a number of other people wearing orange Sun Run t-shirts. On the train itself, stop after stop yielded throngs of excited people piling on, with the same apparel and (one would assume), downtown destination.

When I got off the sky train, I followed the crowd out to the street and, as unlikely as it is, came face-to-face with someone I know who had just dropped off a team. Again, that personal connection.

The cold, wet rain was relentless and standing around for about an hour until being called up to the start line was a test in itself. Fortunately, I was somewhat buoyed by the fervour of the crowd, the live band playing some rousing tunes and the knowledge that I’d made this commitment and would do everything I could to see it through.

Once ushered with the rest of the crowd, to the start line, I felt a certain levity and palpable sense of unity - an agitation to start moving forward...And we were off!…

I was grateful for Sponsor Kal Tire’s markers at each kilometre, with motivating messages; the clappers and people who cheered along the way, spurring us on; the live musical entertainment in several locations, pumping us up as we soldiered on and fought to keep pace. Many volunteers worked the water stations making sure runners, wheelers and walkers were well hydrated; first aid tents were minded, attending to folks with all sorts of ailments while medics cycled up and down the course, staying alert for anyone who may be in need. And, of course the police who stood at the barricades all along the way, kept the area clear and incident free. There were a lot of moving parts, a commendable number of people working together to put on a very successful event!  

Because it is low impact, plus I hadn’t trained, I had made the decision to walk, not run. I was doing quite well until the half-way mark but knowing I was already half done helped. I started experiencing considerable pain in my left ankle. Between the 6th & 7th kilometre, it was basically unbearable so I stopped at a first aid tent and had them apply a tension bandage to see me through the rest of the way.

It helped for a while, but the last couple of kilometres were an exercise in “mind over matter”. To pep-talk myself, I remembered how gruelling my Charlford House experience had been and the emotional journey of the 12 steps of recovery. I had accomplished this by dogged determination and could apply the same principle here, of putting one foot in front of the other. if I just persevered, I would eventually come out the other side.

I also thought about how I had basically been crippled by arthritis two years ago, but thanks to Canadian healthcare and amazing health practitioners, here I was, fully capable of participating in this now.

My husband in the meantime, who used to be an avid jogger, was at home waiting for me. For the past several years, he has been bed and wheelchair ridden. I thought about how he would do anything to have a sore ankle, fighting cold temperatures and the rain, if it meant he could walk even a few steps at a time – let alone 10 kilometres!  

Also, men and women in uniform the world over (my husband and father are both veterans, having served their countries honourably), continue to brave the elements and the cruellest of conditions, to give us the right and freedom to enjoy a day such as this.

All of these thoughts put things in perspective for me, overwhelmed me with gratitude, and brought me closer and closer to crossing the finish line.

Once I had finished the “race”, I hobbled home, satisfied that I had fulfilled my commitment.

In the meantime, other Board Members and volunteers had completed the run and made really good time! I can only imagine their exhilaration! Some women from our 2nd stage house had stood at the finish line, holding signs, offering a last-minute “Woot-Woot” for participants, before heading inside BC Place to watch our Board President participate in a Charity cheque presentation and to join in the celebrations. 

I received a text and photos from other runners who had participated virtually (stretching their run over 3 days in a location of their choosing). It was heart warming to see their broad smiles.

All in all, it was a very positive experience. I think it’s safe to say, we will be participating again next year!

One Father's Story - Ieuan Gilmore, Miranda Vecchio’s father 

Written by Vivian Gietz

You might know Ieuan’s daughter, Miranda, as the Executive Director of Charlford House. She went through the house over 20 years ago, in October of 2000. Ieuan will be forever grateful for what Charlford House did for Miranda.

Ieuan remembers that before coming to treatment, Miranda had been living in the US. Ieaun had been trying to get her to come back to Canada as her drug abuse got worse in the States, isolated and far away from her family. Eventually, he was able to convince her to come up to Canada, and she stayed at a B&B for a while before getting into Charlford House.

Ieuan went to the house to visit Miranda while she was staying there. He remembers Miranda showing him her step-work. She was learning valuable skills and helping with chores, learning how to be part of the sisterhood. He saw her change little by little.

Ieuan remembers watching Miranda turn back into the joyful, helpful person he had known before her addiction. “She was a joy to be around,” he says. Ieuan attended NA meetings with her in her early recovery and learned a lot from the people there.

Having found her way back to Charlford House as the Executive Director many years later, Miranda gives back to the house that saved her life every day through her work. She has a great relationship with her father today and Ieuan couldn’t be prouder.

Charlford House has been saving lives and improving father/daughter relationships for over 50 years. Support women in recovery like Miranda by becoming a monthly donor today:

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The Dis-ease of Isolation

Written by Miranda Vecchio

In this time of uncertainty, some things (unfortunately) remain certain...

On April 14, 2016, a public health emergency was declared in BC, due to the number of overdose deaths that had been recorded in the months leading up to that time.

Since then, more than 5,000 people have lost their lives to overdoses in BC. More than 1,200 of those deaths happened in Vancouver.

Many resources have been focused on resolving this crisis and many organizations mobilized to respond.

Government funds have been directed towards harm reduction; access to and training for the use of Naloxone (a non-addictive medication that reverses the effects of opioid overdose) has become widespread. Universal awareness campaigns have boldly confessed that “the addict is your neighbour, your co-worker, your uncle, your child...”

While combined efforts resulted in a decrease in overdose deaths in 2018 and 2019, 2020 has seen another spike. In March of this year, 116 illicit drug overdose deaths were recorded throughout the province; Vancouver recorded eight suspected overdose deaths in one week alone. Burnaby has also observed a rise in the number of overdose events and fatalities.

It’s important to note that not everyone who overdoses is a regular drug user, however, addicts do contribute to these numbers.

It is clear that BC is experiencing two public health emergencies at once: CoViD-19 and overdose.

CoViD-19 further compounds and exacerbates the associated physical health risks (respiratory issues, compromised immune systems for instance) for vulnerable populations.

When it comes to addiction, help for these men, women and children /youth, is often challenged by stigma, marginalization and socio-economic barriers including housing or health care. In addition, most who experience addiction are dealing with a co-existing mental health disorder such as depression, anxiety, bi-polar or post traumatic stress.

CoViD-19 necessarily has people sheltering in place, social distancing, wearing protective masks and gloves for personal safety. This of course impacts the amount of resources readily available at any given time. It also adds to the already worrisome tendency of the addict population to hide out from life in general.

In many cases, what a drug user really suffers from, is the dis-ease of isolation. I fear that in this day of Co-ViD-19, far too many will have a glimpse into this grim world, where the challenge of coping is too often beyond one’s own grasp. This is typically when a person will reach for something outside of themselves to help them feel better.

Liquor stores have been open throughout the pandemic (apparently, they are considered an “essential service” – Go figure!) and have recorded a 40% increase in sales. Addiction to alcohol is expected to rise exponentially as a result. Inevitably, some people will cross that invisible line into alcoholism while “just trying to take the edge off”.  As I heard one person put it: “This will result in a ‘tsunami’ of people needing help”.

It takes a lot of courage to admit to oneself, that one might have a problem. It is harder still, to reach out for help when necessary. Rest assured though, that when such a time comes, help is available.

Remember: You are never alone. It only feels that way. That is the dis-ease of isolation. The only cure is contact.

If you or someone you know is suffering, please contact: Alcohol & Drug Information and Referral Service
604-660-9382 or 1-800-663-1441

Written by Miranda Vecchio, Executive Director, Charlford House Society for Women
Charlford House is a not-for-profit women’s treatment centre in North Burnaby
604-420-6601
miranda@charlfordhouse.ca
To donate: charlfordhouse.ca/donate

Just for Today: Weathering the Storm of COVID-19

Written by Vivian Gietz

As it has for many others, COVID-19 presented new challenges for the staff, Board, and women of Charlford House Society for Women. In the past couple of weeks, the health guidelines have become stricter each day. Visitors are no longer allowed, which limits our volunteer numbers and means our alumnae can no longer come home as they used to. Some staff had to start working from home, including myself, the Administrative Assistant. We had to reconsider how to handle intakes and discharges, and our upcoming fundraising events were cancelled.

Until recently, I had been optimistic and enjoying the sunny weather, ready to embrace the energy of the spring. Then the COVID-19 pandemic hit. I suddenly did not feel hopeful or prepared to take on the new season. I felt anxious, depressed, and terrified, not just for myself but for the negative financial and mental health effects this could have on my friends and family. I especially worried for the friends I made through Charlford House, wondering if the intense isolation, including the closure of NA and AA resource centres, could cause those newer to recovery to relapse.

However, I soon started seeing video chat recovery meetings popping up. I was surprised when my friends started sending me invitations to them, even though I’m not an addict. When I joined one, I was overwhelmed by the number of smiling familiar faces on my phone screen, all happy to have me there as an “honourary Peach”. I realized not only are my friends in recovery still surrounded by support in this time of uncertainty, but so am I by those same women. In my time working here, they’ve fully welcomed me as one of their own, and they weren’t about to let me go through this alone.

A resounding reminder of “Just for today”, a common addictions recovery mantra, echoed throughout the video call. I realized then I should be facing this pandemic the same way my friends face their recovery: one day at a time. I still didn’t know how long this would last, but I knew I had a group of women to lean on, even when I couldn’t see them in person.

Despite the many changes in the past few weeks, the women of Charlford House remain energetic, warm, and hopeful. A consistent beacon of light in a difficult time, Charlford House upholds the love and compassion it’s known for, even through unforeseen challenges. I don’t know when I’ll return to my office there, but I know I will one day soon.

With 50 years of experience supporting women, it’s clear that Charlford House is capable of continuing to offer a sense of home to staff and alumnae alike, regardless of physical limitations. I’m confident this will be an opportunity for us to explore new ways of connecting our women, fundraising, and engaging our supporters. We’ll come out even stronger in the end. As we face this one day at a time, we will continue to save lives, one woman at a time.

Now more than ever, we need your support. Please consider making a donation to Charlford House by visiting charlfordhouse.ca/donate. Donations over $20 will receive a tax receipt.

My First Two Weeks at Charlford House

Contributed by Vivian Gietz

When I applied for the Administrative Assistant position at Charlford House Society for Women, my goal was simply to find a new full time position. My previous workplace had become stressful and had a long commute from my home. At the same time, I was determined to find something that aligned better with my long term career interests in social justice and communications.

When I interviewed for the position at Charlford, I instantly knew that this was a place I would be able to call home. I immediately had a “gut feeling” I was meant to work here and was completely overjoyed when offered the position. Since starting, I’ve been told by everyone here that you can feel the love and magic of Charlford House the moment you step inside. That is certainly true; I felt it when I first came for my interview and every day since. I am very humbled to be a part of it.

Though I haven’t personally struggled with addiction, I have dealt with my own mental illnesses. I’m all too familiar with the overwhelming negative power the troubled mind can have. I also have a number of friends and family who struggle with addiction. I find it incredibly encouraging and inspirational to hear the women of Charlford speak so openly about addiction recovery and mental health.

I’m someone who loves to think and talk about emotional growth and connections to others and the world around us. It’s very important to me that these virtues, and the self-awareness that comes with them, are valued as part of people’s journeys towards improvement. Here at Charlford House, everyone truly demonstrates that through dedication to growth, conversation, and connection, miraculous things can happen.

The success stories and impressive history of Charlford House are clear evidence of this. I knew I was joining an organization I could be proud to say I work for. Working here for only a couple weeks, I’ve already learned much more about addiction than my limited knowledge was before my arrival. This knowledge will help me continue to empathize with those in my life struggling with addiction and provide tactics applicable to coping with my own mental illness, even if it isn’t addiction-related.

The position is exactly what I was looking for in so many ways. Writing articles, managing social media, and redesigning websites are exactly the areas where my passions lie, especially for such a great cause. With such a welcoming environment and the opportunity to expand these skills, I certainly seem to have found a position that exceeds my expectations. I look forward to working here for the foreseeable future. I can’t wait to see what I help Charlford accomplish while I’m here.